Having a clean home makes a heart cheery. If my home is a mess I feel down and overwhelmed. I stare at the clutter and mess and wonder where to start. A clean home is a welcoming home. People feel at ease when they step into a clean and orderly home. It is a sign that all is well if the home is in order. A home filled with the love of Christ and a love for each other is paramount. Never put your clean home above that!
I have learned to like cleaning from my mother. She is the best cleaner I know. When you are in her home, it just smells clean. It is inviting and restful. Anyone can trust they will not contract a disease by entering her home. You can walk barefoot and not feel a crumb. My mother would teach me how to clean properly just as her mother taught her when she was growing up. They would do the white glove test. Testing every surface to see that nothing was left undone. And now, I am teaching my children the same. These skills are passed down from generation to generation. My grandmother did this, not even my mother did the white glove test. I have never done the white glove test. My grandmother ironed her sheets, bleached her babies white shoes, ironed and bleached the shoestrings. Everything had to be perfect. We live in a different time. I am not even close to that meticulous. I have a very relaxed and joyful home. We all enjoy working, eating, playing, and fellowshipping together.
I have noticed that a mother that is not concerned about a clean home will produce daughters that are not concerned either. They find it comfortable to be in the dirt, clutter, and filth. In fact, they do not see the dirt. If they do see it, they do not care. The house smells foul and the floors are almost just as bad as a pigpen in the barn. They have animals living in the home that shed and leave messes that are not cleaned up properly, and I either want to breathe out of my mouth to avoid the fumes, or I felt the need to vacate. I have only seen one situation like this a long time ago. It was bad. Anyone would agree. I do not meet others that live that way.
When my children were still babies, I would take them to visit others. If the home was a mess I worried about choking hazards and germs. I did not want to leave the child on the floor because I could see the grime. That grime would coat my children's feet, hands, and knees of their clothing. It was an uneasy feeling that I had. I did not want to make the hostess feel badly, but I was literally grossed out. My children would tire of piling on my lap and I would tire from propping up all their weight. Again, this did not happen but one or two places, but it would make anyone do the same. I assure you, it was bad. The home had dog feces 2 feet thick in the garage just to give you some background. If that is not enough to make you sick. If you think you would put your kids on the floor there, more power to ya.
It is not good etiquette to have a home that resembles an animal pen. Even if it does not affect you, it is teaching your children to be slobs. Someday they will teach their children to be slobs and every home will smell bad. Every toilet a cesspool. I agree, I was a bit harsh here. I should not have focussed on this. It is much to negative. Keeping things positive is always better.
A home that is rarely cleaned will always have a bathroom that has a very dirty toilet. The smell of urine is so strong. My mother always had a sit down rule. Everyone, including men, had to sit on the toilet to go. She told me it was because of splashing. Urine will always splash out and it can run down the side of the toilet to the floor around the base. The odors get trapped there. My mother had that rule, I do not have that rule. My husband can use the toilet how ever he chooses. Sorry for the confusion.
I have learned to check bathrooms in restaurants to see how clean they are. Bathrooms are a reflection on the overall cleanliness of an established business. If the bathroom smells nice and is spotless, you know they care about every detail. I check them at restaurants, Everyone should. I did not say I check my friends bathrooms. You should be alarmed if a restaurant bathroom is filthy. Food preparation in restaurants is a very crucial thing. They can pass very harmful bacteria to you and your family in the food. I once got very sick from a restaurant and it was a very bad situation for me.
Dirty Happy Homes?
I have heard the argument that a dirty home is a happy home. Some women will tell me that they would feel stressed and be nasty if they had to keep their home clean. My question is WHY? Why would cleaning a home make anyone stressed if they keep it up each day? I am a reformed slob. I know all the excuses. Now, rather, I find cleaning to be very satisfying. If I have a dirty or cluttered home, I feel stress like nothing else. I feel unmotivated, lazy, and just plain overwhelmed to look around at the mess. I get nasty and grouchy if my house is unclean. I aim to teach people how to overcome the big brunt of the job so you rarely have to deep clean. You can take 20 minutes or less and have it stay nice. No stress.
Men love a clean and orderly home. Mine does, but of course, some men do not. All people are different and that is okay. They work all day and truly enjoy coming home to a fresh environment. It sets the mood for a relaxing evening for him to unwind with his family. Again, the main thing is peace, joy, and love in a home. Clean homes are a second on the list. BTW, my home gets trashed after each meal. We just clean it up. Homes that looked lived in are great. Do not feel condemned. I am not saying your home should be perfectly clean, there are a lot of other things that are more important than a clean home. But learning some cleaning strategies are great for anyone. So hop on my blog each tuesday and I hope to impart some great tips for cleaning.
****Here is a positive note. Have some cleaning buddies. I have 5. And my daughters are now cleaning other peoples homes to make money. They love cleaning. I started teaching them to clean when they were 3 years old and I guess I made cleaning fun for them. You can try that too. It would not hurt.
Some women also argue that they want to spend more quality time with their children. Hey, you can spend a lot of time with your children cleaning with them! That is a part of our family time. As soon as my kids could walk, they were my cleaning buddies. They learned so early that cleaning was just a part of daily living. It was not a mountain to climb, it was just a few short steps each morning. It brings such a feeling of working as a team. We all live here, we all clean here! The more kids a person has, the more cleaning buddies. The older kids can buddy up with the younger children in their chores to pass on their skills. It is a win/win situation. Building relationships while creating a haven of refreshing beauty!
Maybe a person can get used to filth and it just does not affect their wellbeing but that would be an exception to the rule. Everyone is different, but EVERYONE can learn to be a good cleaner. It is not a gift. It is not even a personality trait. It is just good common sense. It is just a good thing to know. God calls us to be keepers of the home. Not all women have been taught to clean. I get that. I know I have offended many people by this post. I am sorry for that, my intentions were pure. I actually was hoping to help people, being a blessing and encouragement and not a burden. Trying to make your life easier in the long run.
I plan to make a step by step video tutorial on house cleaning among other things useful to the housekeeper, wife, and mother. I realize people just have fallen through the cracks. They need encouragement and the tools to know where to begin.
Each week I will focus on one room and post some youtube videos to go with my blog posts. I will do my best to share what I know about cleaning in hopes to help you enjoy the blessing of a clean home.