WHAT is the definition of NICE???
NICE: pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory: pleasant in manner; good-natured; kind:
It costs nothing to be NICE, yet so many of us have a hard time affording it in our daily lives. People are mean or nasty to us, or they treat us disrespectfully and our first reaction is to give them a taste of their own medicine. The toxic medicine they are doling out is better if you treat it with the antidote which is being nice in return. Smiling, trying to see the good in that person, and say something kind.
Did you ever here of the phrase, "Kill them with kindness?" Well that is true. When you treat someone with kindness, or a compliment, they will unfurl their brow, they will not understand your unique way of retaliation. They will find it hard to keep being mean. Your kindness may even cure their misery. The Bible says we should love our enemies and pray for those that persecute us, EVEN to the point of heaping Coals upon their head just by how well we treat those who do not deserve it!
Being nice, KIND, and smiling aids also in taking your stress level down. Make some new habits today. How about doing some random acts of kindness. Maybe it is writing a love note to your husband and putting it in his lunch, or maybe a little encouragement to your child in the morning, by pointing out some of the things they do well. How about in your marriage, how about point out the good things, the sacrificial things you husband does for you to provide food and shelter for you.
Challenge for today: Do 5 random acts of kindness each day. Make a list and make sure to fit some NICE in. Overtime you will become more kind!
If you met YOU, would you want to be your friend? Are you easy to get along with. Or do you nit pick at everything that other people are doing. When you go to church, do you spend more time looking around at all the people and notice what they are doing or not doing rather than listening to the message. Do you like to notice when someone looks ugly or eats their food in a rude way, or if they are a good parent or not. Just spend about 20 minutes with a nit picker and see if you want to be around them.
WHAT IS A NITPICKER????
A nitpicker is a person who finds faults, however small or unimportant, everywhere they look. After seeing a movie, a nitpicker lists every tiny thing he or she didn't like about it. Use the informal nitpicker when you're talking about someone who is extremely critical, even when those criticisms seem inconsequential.
I have a lot of people I have been around in my life that are nit pickers. Oh boy, they notice everything that you do and they are very quick to give their opinions. They think their opinions are exactly what you wanted to hear, too! However, you are left feeling less of a human after they run you through their microscopic analysis. If you are one of those, STOP! No one likes you! They are afraid of you and they are scared to tell you anything. You are TOXIC. You make people uncomfortable. They avoid your calls on the phone. You make them nervous. And one day, if you just keep being a nit picker, you will have no one. TRUST Me, nit picking opinionated people are not what you call nice.
Have your family members be BRUTALLY honest with you today. Ask them your NICE score percentage. What percentage are you nice to those that you love the most. They are good judges since they see your true colors every day.
I asked my husband to be completely honest with me and I was sure it would be around 50%, I was not sure if I have always been fair and nice to him. BUT to my surprise, he rated me at 80%!!! I am, in his estimation, 80% nice. I thought that was really a compliment. He said, "You are actually a very KIND person and I really LIKE you!" So I asked the kids, never telling them what their dad said, and they each said about the same amount! Which is really funny. I gave my husband a 95% rating for being nice because after all, he has to put up with that other 20% of the time that I am NOT so nice. LOL!
It is something I endeavor to work on each day. I love that Jesus teaches this to us in his word...
"LOVE your Neighbor as yourself" So basically treat others the way you would want to be treated. When everyone is NICE everyone has more FUN, LESS STRESS, and everyone feels safe!
Try it. I dare you to be nice and not a nitpicker! Make a commitment to being nice!
Oh, and don't forget to smile. Smiling sets you up to be more thankful and to be NICER. Try smiling first thing in the morning and to be more positive say, "I get to make breakfast, YAY! I am so blessed to get to do that for those that I love. I am so excited to be a blessing to my family today!" That is setting your mind in a very positive, thankful way!