The other day as my husband's head hung low, he exclaimed that he just did not know how we could possibly get in our new home. With the house all gutted and no electricity or plumbing, no walls, no floors, he was concerned. I quickly tried to help him the best way I know how...ask people to help. I was able to find about 4 men in the community to clear some days in their schedule to come out and help get the house done.
This is how community life works...
You help each other out. If they come help in a big project for a few days, we pay them back by working for them a few days when they need it. It is a give and take relationship. We take some needed help and then we give needed help later.
BUT, sometimes it goes beyond a few days of help and then it becomes appropriate to pay the helpers.
There is a unwritten law of etiquette in asking for major help...DO NOT ASK TOO MUCH OF OTHERS!
You never EVER want to have others help so much as to tilt the scales too far in one direction. People get a bad feeling when they keep helping and the giving never comes full circle in their direction. Sometimes it is wise to just pay people so they do not feel taken advantage of. Besides, the workers are in high demand (they could be working another job) and they need food on their tables, too. It is always good to make sure your helper feels appreciated and their needs are covered.
Feed them. I always make food for the helpers because it is a nice gesture for the sacrifice they are making to squeeze your job in—AND this was a last minute emergency job, after all. Today, I will be serving tacos to the men! It is fun to see them get refreshed after a long morning of work. We are so thankful for the help!
This past week while getting the garden in, Mark was working on electrical and plumbing. We needed to pass the code so it was really crucial that he hooked up all the wires up to code. Thankfully, he passed the inspection so now we have been able to put up the insulation in the walls.
We found a bunch of this old rusted tin in the yard of the new property. My visionary husband found a use for it. It will be the ceilings in our kitchen, laundry room, and bathrooms as well as shower panels.